Do you or your spouse say really mean things to each other when mad?

I think most people do say some things they do not really mean int he heat of an argument, but there is a line you can cross over into unacceptable and "mean". This is actually verbal abuse and very destructive and painful. I believe verbal (emotional) abuse is worse than physical abuse in that when you get his, it heals. When you say horrible, hurtful things, that damage doesn't heal. That pain, that damage, and that scar remains forever. The damage is done and cannot be erased. That is why it is important not to get carried away in an argument. Sometimes it is best to walk away for the moment and give yourself a little time to cool off and speak more rationally.